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After coming back from two congresses and a workshop, hm... I strongly agreed with what KX said, when we were organizing some events or doing something together, we could see the true colour of everyone, no matter it was good or bad... This time, I could see clearly everyone's true colour for those who involved for all these events. Sigh, the more I saw, the more I was disappointed with, the more I wanted to blurt out to, the more I wished to runaway from all these so that I would not say something cruel or rude... I really did not like to spoil my mood because of this NONE, not worth it...

The relationship between two persons were amazing, so blind until the NotRightAttitude could be easily tolerated or ignored. It was really amazing, wasn't it? I could hardly understand what were the factors that contributed to this phenomenon.

Just a few case studies/ scenarios for you to justify whether what were the factors that the NotRightAttitude could be easily tolerated or ignored:

• For some works which needed a lot of man power but the A, B, C, D, and E bosses were not around, it would be very hard to see NONE being around or helping out. As a result, others worked like bulls without complaining to superiors even though they were not committee members but NONE kept telling people how tired he/she was because not enough of sleep (by the way, none of us had enough sleep neither and all the stuffs were very heavy to us.)

• When NONE was assigned to be xyz committee member which needed to work under A boss, NONE was not willing to help A boss but he/ she was very keen to help B, C, D and E bosses especially for networking. This made A boss had to work alone during the busiest time for the event. NONE was only willing to help when A boss asked him/her to sit down and help her out. NONE's face was like very reluctant and unhappy ( we still worked and completed whatever our boss asked for without any complaints.)
  

• When A boss had not reached the hall yet but some of the participants wanted to claim something like receipts or bills or etc from her, NONE did not protect her but caused her to be scolded behind by those participants in front of so many students. The scolding really hurt A boss that we could tell from her face. At the end, A boss still did not know or choose not to know who was the culprit and doted on NONE as usual (made us frustrated and felt sorry to A boss.)

• Maybe those invited guests were not so important to NONE, he did not willing to help for the workshop but volunteer for leading and lending the car to bring B boss's guest for sightseeing from morning to night.

• Due to NONE was very busy for the sightseeing, he/she lost the patient and kept asking why he/ she had to help out for the day before workshop ( I was really mad of NONE, everyone had to help out since UM was host, did you get it??? and helping this was because we were colleagues, we should backup and helping for each other. Couldn't you get it? A boss is our boss, therefore, even though something unfair or not right emotions fall on us from boss, we still did our best to help her.)

• When everyone was so tired and busy helping out for the workshop, I got a sms from my friend that NONE was back to his/ her room and slept already. The next morning, another sms telling me that NONE was watching the serial dramas until late night that was why he was very tired (NONE was relaxing and watching drama at home but we had to work until late night in the lab??? Why and what???)

• Why A boss had to beg NONE for the outing with guests although NONE already showed not interest on that? Why A boss did like never appreciate those who really helped out but showed gratitude to NONE who did nothing but only used the device for printing??? ( still acting was better than really working, if like that, maybe we should learn from the mistakes by not to work hard. At least acting did not inquire sweat and it was easier that way.)

We helped out for all the events, not because of we were forced. It was because since A boss really needed help, sure we would put all the efforts to give in help as we were in the same boat. It was that simple only. I still could not understand why NONE could act like doing a lot of difficult works but in fact NONE did nothing difficult and not really many works. Besides, I thought of A boss had the ability to distinguish who were helpers and who were not. If she could not really see that, at least she should appreciate the helpers but not shouting or putting all the angers on helpers, this was so-called respect. We could actually copied the attitude of NONE by not helping A boss, but our hearts were not allowed us to do so. I still could not understand why A boss still could doted on NONE who was troublemaker but threw the tempers on those who helped her all the time.

hm...maybe it was because of the +ve and -ve charges between two persons to give out the right chemistry while two +ve or -ve could not. Therefore the unfair incidents could happen all the time in our lives. sigh... Hopefully when I have chance to be a superior, I will not be the blind one... I wish I can be the fair one.... nothing unfair will happen.... though it is easier said than done.... crossed my fingers...